Nancy's Musings

Have you seen this ? Good. Your mind is a little broadened to the variety that is feminism. I'm a feminist too! And these are just some of my ideas about feminism and clothing. Let me tell you EXACTLY why I will not be bifurcating my outer clothing at church this Sunday. And why I'd love it if some people did. They're right: we, as a culture, don't accept diversity very well, despite God's frantic admonitions. Our bad. So if you see a woman wearing pants to church, revel in it. Her courage, or diversity, or whatever she is being/expressing, is awesome, even if she's just expressing that she didn't get all her laundry done that week. We've all been there. I wore flip-flops a couple of times because I had forgotten to travel with shoes. Nobody cared. Okay, one little girl asked, but her mother defended me. If you want to worship somewhere with a dress code, there's always the Temple , where diversity is very much beside the point, and where we embrace ...

A friend spoke up in Relief Society yesterday during a lesson about forgiveness and said something I almost agreed with. She pointed out that forgiveness is really between a person and God, and is largely irrelevant to the perpetrator of the offense. I think I agree, in that forgiving becomes for us largely a selfish act. We forgive others so that we feel better ourselves. But because it's selfish, we categorize so many things in our lives as "unforgivable" and then ameliorate that down to "unforgettable" and sever our relationships because we're protecting ourselves. In some specific cases, I absolutely believe severance to be the best course: I see no reason to maintain dating relationships with someone who has crossed boundaries of any kind, because dating relationships specifically are contingent on very personal kinds of approval. And no sane human would consider remaining friends with a rapist, abuser, or thief after being victimized by that person. Bu...